Answer these quick and easy questions Audrey Valeriani, life coach, compiled to help people see who they are. Getting to know yourself will help you find happiness in your life after the divorce is over.
In order for you to comfortably interact with people and leave your mark on the world (in whatever way that may be), you need to learn how to benaturally to
Be Yourself
Who you are is made up of many things: your feelings, tastes, style, viewpoint, how you think, and what you like to do. Ask yourself these questions:
- Are you religious or spiritual, or do you believe in science and logic?
- How do you view politics, the economy? Are you concerned about the environment, poverty, war?
- Are you outwardly affectionate toward those you love? Are you involved in the lives of your family and friends? Or are you shy, somewhat of a loner?
- Do you feel strongly about certain issues and simply have to tell people how you feel? Or do you keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself?
- Are you thirsty for knowledge? Like to read and write? Are you inquisitive? Suspicious?
- What makes you get up in the morning? What inspires you? What brings you joy?
- What are your passions? How do you like to spend your spare time? Do you like sports? The Red Sox? The Yankees?!(This one is very important!)
All of these things (and more!) make up who you are inside. When you meet someone, it’s easy to put yourself and your needs aside to show someone that you care. But never give up your essence — what makes you YOU — to try to please someone else. Think about this. What if:
- Isadora Duncan stopped dancing?
- Eleanor Roosevelt kept silent?
- Rosa Parks moved to the back of the bus?
- Lucille Ball suppressed her zany sense of humor?
- Oprah gave up her dream of broadcasting?
- Elvis stopped gyrating?!
The world would have lost out on greatness! These people were all true to themselves and, as a result, touched the lives of millions of people and many generations. So nurture your talents and embrace who you are! Who knows where your passion and imagination might lead?
Embrace and Accept Your Self
Don’t obsess about your looks or hair, or berate yourself because you’re not thin or don’t always say the right thing — and that goes for women and men. So many of us put ourselves down on a daily basis, and it’s just so unhealthy. Have a realistic view of yourself. Never stop trying to be your best, but don’t pick yourself apart all the time. Stop telling yourself you’re not good enough and don’t keep comparing yourself to others. In September 2004, Jamie-Lynn Sigler star of the HBO series The Sopranos
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Cultivate Your Own Style
Another way of treating yourself with love and respect is to take care of your health and your appearance, and take pride in your own uniquenesswithoutyour
For example, pear-shaped people usually have narrow shoulders, a defined waist, and generous hips and thighs. The best looks for this body type is fitted on top, a defined waistline, and a loose fit around the hips. Round-shaped people usually have a generous middle and slender legs. For this body type, you should wear longer tops and avoid those that bunch in the middle, and wear clothing that draws the eye to the leg area. Straight shapes usually have upper and lower torsos of equal length and flat bottoms. Here it’s best to avoid thick belts, wear v-neck sweaters, and low-waisted items. Heavy people should avoid anything too baggy or too tight and look for dresses that flare out at the waist.
What’s important for everyone
- wear the right color for your skin tone,
- avoid high-waisted and pleated pants, and
- make sure your clothing fits you.
When you take good care of yourself, you send a message to your brain that you love and respect yourself, thereby enhancing your self-esteem. What that means is, if you feel like you’re all that, it will showexudenatural
So embrace your individuality. When your partner and those around you see your confident sparkle, they will feel your power and treat you accordingly.
Find Your Scent
Scent is a very powerful force in the science of attraction in animals and in humans. According to a Time
According to a report on WHDH-TV in Boston, it’s been proven that certain smells can trigger emotional and physical effects. For example, chamomile is said to relieve stress, peppermint to keep us alert, and eucalyptus is commonly used to clear nasal congestion. In the science of attraction, there have been a number of reports claiming that lavender, as well as the smell of cinnamon buns, pumpkin pie, and licorice, can all boost a man’s erection!
The Smell Report issued by the Social Issues Research Centre claims that women are highly sensitive to male pheromones, particularly around ovulation and that the male pheromone “androstenol” has been shown to attract women. However, when not freshly emitted, however, the smell can be received by women as “highly unpleasant.” Women are also said to be sensitive to the scent of musk, which exists in products for both men and women. So if you are wearing a perfume containing musk, you are much more likely to arouse women than any males in the area! And one last thing to consider, while some scents may attract the opposite sex, it is important to make sure that your intended knows that you are the one smelling so good! When in a crowd, the arousing scent may not be able to be traced back to the person wearing it.
When we use perfume or cologne, each concoction mixes with our own natural chemistries. That’s why one scent can smell differently on two separate individuals. Sample a variety of products until you find a fragrance that is subtle and mixes well with your body. And believe me, the person will let you know when you find the right one. It can become your signature scent.