Looking for your G-spot? You’re not the only one. If you’re not sure where to start or whether it even exists, we have some tips to show you the way. Our sexperts give step-by-step instructions to finding the pleasure zone, including which methods work best in the bedroom. Plus, how sexually adventurous are you? Take our quiz and find out.
Most important: Get fully aroused, Levine says, because “the G-spot swells the more aroused a woman gets.” Full arousal differs for every woman: It may be five minutes into sexual activity… or 25. Once aroused and lubricated, follow these steps: 1. Insert a finger (yours or your partner’s) in the vagina. 2. Run it along the top wall of the vagina. Look out for an area that feels different from the rest of the tissue. Perhaps it’s more pleasurable when touched. 3. If you find a spot that feels promising, stimulate the area with a “come-hither” motion.
For many women, the G-spot is about halfway between the vaginal opening and the cervix, Levine says. If not there, try feeling closer to the vaginal opening or the cervix. “Many women are scared about peeing during G-spot stimulation because it triggers a similar sensation, like they have to urinate,” Levine says. Her recommendation: Urinate beforehand to put your mind at ease about wetting the bed. Once the G-spot is stimulated to the point of swelling, the peeing feeling usually subsides, perhaps giving way to pleasure. For some women, G-spot stimulation triggers the release of fluid from the Skene’s glands in the urethra, usually at orgasm.
Another Method
Woman on top
“This allows a woman to experiment with the angle that works best for her,” Levine says. ”Leaning back slightly while she’s on top targets the upper vaginal wall.” Rear entry
“This works especially well if a woman can angle her body down by resting on her elbows,” Levine says.
Missionary
G-spot stimulation can be enhanced by squeezing your pelvic floor muscles around your partner’s penis. (It boosts his arousal too.) Couples can experiment with angling his body up slightly so their pelvic bones are aligned and the penis is at the right angle to provide G-spot stimulation. Couples should maintain a gentle rocking motion. This position, called the coital-alignment technique, also provides clitoral stimulation. Levine also encourages women (and their partners) to explore sex toys designed for G-spot stimulation. They're generally angled at the tip to target the upper vaginal wall, and can be made of various materials, such as soft silicone, plastic or even glass. Just remember: What worked for your best friend may not work for you. And most important, resist the urge to get G-spot tunnel vision.
“Orgasm is a subjective experience and that’s exactly the way it’s supposed to be,” Levine says. Good sex is as much about a mental connection as a physical one. Feeling comfortable with your partner and yourself is a prerequisite to pleasure. So enjoy the journey and
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