Its easy feeling low and insecure after a divorce which lead to a loss of trust in yourself. John Gray provides readers some lessons on trusting yourself again and emotionally moving on.
Does having been divorced make you feel like a loser in the game of life? It shouldn’t.
No one is immune to things going wrong, or cruel twists of fate. Everyone makes mistakes: in love, in their careers, in innocent decisions that at times have catastrophic consequences.
If you start believing that you are “cursed,” or that you can no longer trust your own judgment, then your doubts will inevitably erode your self-confidence. And that would be pointless and self-defeating.
Instead of looking at your divorce as a loss of time, effort, and esteem, consider it a growth experience. After all, every experience — be it good, bad, or indifferent — teaches us valuable life lessons. If anything, your divorce served as a comprehensive relationship primer. Some of its lessons should be invaluable to you: both in enhancing your ability to discern the potential for new primary relationships, and in reassessing and enhancing other relationships as well.
It should also have revealed many personal strengths and exposed some emotional hot-spots. In acknowledging this, you can now better formulate a path for personal growth.
Which brings us back to the issue of trust. After such a traumatic experience, you need to be able to trust again — not only others, but also yourself — to take the lessons learned in divorce and apply them to the rest of your life.
Let’s recap some of those lessons:
Lesson #1: Don’t be afraid to get back into the game.canare
Lesson #2: Open your eyes and read the signs.
Lesson #3: Create a game plan.
Lesson #4: Don’t rush anything.
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